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    Girlfriend won't accept my Musky fishing lifestyle!

    Girlfriend won't accept my musky fishing lifestyle

    So I have a problem, hoping you guys can offer some advice.*

    My girlfriend of a few years has given me an ultimatum- quit musky fishing or she is going to leave*
    me.*

    her main complaints involve the amount of time an money I spend on 'my obsession'.*

    She says I am always tired cause I am getting up early to go fishing, that I never have time for her during the season.*

    She is mad that I will spend $20 on a new lure all the time but never take her out for a nice dinner or buy her flowers instead.*

    Shes mad that I never take pictures of her and us- all of the pictures on the digital camera are of 'damn fish' and she can't delete them and take nice photos. Said she wanted to take sexy photos for me a couple weeks ago but when she opened the camera all the stupid fish pictures took her out of the mood.*

    She compares my Internet browsing of musky sites and blogs to surfing porn. She says I have a 'problem'

    What should I do?

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    Awsome post. Made me chuckle just a little

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    I learned long ago that IMO spouses should have common interests. Lots of fish in the pond. Say bye-bye unless you want to be married and miserable.

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    If this is a serious post (which I doubt). Split the year in half with her. Your months are June through November (if you fish the awesome November moons) or May through October. Her months are the other six. During her six months, do whatever she wants. And be true to your word. If she want to go shopping for coats on a Sunday when you wanna watch football, you'll get to know where in the mall the store that has TVs is. Point out that she is getting the better deal. You don't force her to go fishing during YOUR six months, but you'll do whatever she wants during HER six months.

    Greg Ide
    (this worked for 13 years, then, luckily, girlfriend from hell moved out, and I can fish whenever I want.)

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    Sounds like the Brad Paisely song - I'm Gonna Miss Her

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    Gee...I think if you can figure this out you should write a book and you'll make a fortune. Maybe this can be a new book idea for Jim and Steve.

    In all seriousness, there are as many different approaches to this as there are relationships out there. Some guys may want to have much in common with their significant other, others want their hobbies to be theirs. My wife in I have little in common with each other as far as interests. We argue and bicker over the dumbest things. But we make it work. For us it's all about balance. I'm only a newbie to musky fishing, but there are other things I like to do as well. We do our best to allow each other to do our individual things and make it a point to spend as much time together as we can.

    I think it all boils down to what you want in a relationship. Then try to figure out the balance. The biggest thing is to be upfront from the beginning that this is something that you like to do and you'll likely be doing a lot of it. If she can't accept that, then there is no real reason to continue the relationship. A good partner will accept those things. But there also has to be the other end where you get dragged around to all those deathly boring things that you would never do otherwise.

    If things like the camera are an issue, then take her out to buy her a new camera. It'll solve one issue and give you some bonus points. Just consider it another fishing investment.

    As far as other things like gifts, just buy the flowers. I buy my wife flowers regularly. Not super often...but enough. It doesn't have to be $25-$40+ in roses all the time. I just get cut flowers from around $5-$12 and just use vases that we already have. If you girlfriend likes other flowers than roses...even better...they are cheaper and they live longer.

    Another thing is go all out on valentines day, christmas and her birthday. This last valentines day I got flowers and cards for my wife and two girls. Made my wife feel guilty...so that night she ordered me a new musky lure.

    Another thing is make sure your gal has something she likes to do on her own...if you are her only interest, then you are in trouble (as far a fishing is concerned).

    Point is...there has to be give and take on both ends. If it is grossly unbalanced, then it isn't going to work.

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    Sounds like you missed the middle ground here. You see what the options and alternatives are and you'll figure it out. I'd 2nd the Brad song and look to do things different with the next one, this appears too far gone when it's all or nothing and she'll have the upper hand forever in all things. Get a dog that likes fishing, mine's a riot, and a chick magnet to boot.

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    I'm thinking this might be a song-writing opportunity for Joe Bucher... "I've got the Musky Fishing Girlfriend Blues." I doubt it makes #1 on pop charts, but maybe does OK on country radio.

    For what it's worth, my wife is still upset with the guy who introduced me to musky fishing in the mid-70's!

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    Walk away before it gets expensive.

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    My girlfriend says it's not like we're out sitting in the bars or a strip club throwing the money away.She even comes out in the boat and gives it a try from time to time.We just had another kid tuesday the 10th and she even let me go to the mn expo sat.Baby Rain is our newest but we also have three boys and they love muskie fishing.The whole family goes to the muskies inc meetings and outings.I'd say I'm pretty lucky but mine can't be the only one out there I think it's time to look for a new woman and try to find one that might even give fishing a try.I may miss some and lose some due to working with the family but IMO it's well worth it.Sometimes its more fun to see them catch em.Get a woman that knows the difference between muskie fishing and porn. Russ

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